Let’s Talk Bookish is a weekly meme, hosted by Rukky @ Eternity Books & Dani @ Literary Lion, where a topic is presented each week and we get to share our opinions on it and spread some love among others’s opinions too!
This Week’s Topic is:
“I’m Not Like Other Girls” Trope (Dani)
If there is one trope that really, truly, annoys me it’s the “i’m not like other girls” one.
It isn’t just the idea of it, it’s everything related.
I feel like most YA books are about “special girls” who read, listen to indie music, have a different kind of family… you get the idea. And yeah, i was one of those girls myself while growing up, and to this day i still read, listen to indie music and have a different kind of family (my dad passed away when i was extremely little). But that’s not the point.
I think eveyrone deserves to read and find themselves portaited in some books. And yeah, usually i feel very well represented.
But what about a regular girl who literally didn’t enjoy reading but decided to pick up a book? Is she not deserving of having good representation in a book?
This comes because most of the “other girls” in the books with this trope are shallow and mean, and not everyone is like that. I’ve met many people who read sporadically, meaning aren’t bookworms (like my sister), and they never get to be represented in any books like a nice girl.
Yes, the biggest problem for me in the books with this trope is the fact that
- she is the only good person in the universe
- the guys all fall for her for no reason
- all the other girls in the world are MEAN
And that makes zero sense to me. There are a lot of “regular” people who are awesome people.
Also, you don’t have to be different to deserve love. Everyone deserves it. Ergo, there should be books about all kinds of girls. Like, now there are some books about bigger girls, smaller girls, girls from different ethnicities, with different kinds of lifestyles and that is amazing, because again, everyone deserves to be represented.
I think the “i’m not like other girls” trope is getting old, we deserve books aboout all kinds of girls, and boys, and everything in between, you know? I LOVE that many authors are getting their place in the book industry and we get so many different girls in all kinds of books, still obviously we need more but it’s important that the change has started.
Sorry, but all i can think about while thinking about the “i’m not like other girls” trope is Bella Swan. And yeah, she wasn’t like other girls, because she fell in love with a vampire, wow (sarcasm) and she read a trillion times Wuthering Heights. Is that what really makes someone special? falling for an edgy boy and reading classics? sorry, one classic. Why is that so amazing? Why does every “different” girl need to have a favorite classic author? a classic book she loves? What if my favorite author is Jennifer Niven, am i not enough?
I hope you understand what i’m trying to say here.
I understand that many readers are fangirls, but we are not the only ones looking for a book to read sometimes and it needs to be shown in the books we get and read. As Aiden Thomas can write about a trans brujo, everyone needs that representation and we need to read more books about how others are so we can empathize with them too.
I hope i made my point.
What do you think about the topic and the trope? Leave your comment down below!